Remember when you were a young teenager and you were heavily influenced by what all your friends were doing? You soon worked out which band to like, which lipgloss to buy, which boy to fancy, which way to do your hair. It was what you did to feel cool and part of the gang. You didn’t want to be different. You wanted to fit in.
And then eventually in your late teens, or maybe in your 20s, or even your early 30s, you reached a point where you thought ‘fuck this shit’ and you became comfortable in your own skin, and with your own thoughts. You let go off the heavy overhang of what everyone else was thinking or doing, and started to trust YOURSELF. It was a liberating moment. You relaxed into your own body, felt like you had found your place in the world, and set off exploring life with a renewed vigour and self-confidence.
That peer pressure vibe of our teenage years can often happen again when we become pregnant and enter motherhood.
It’s a whole new world, this parenting gig. And it’s natural to feel lost and overwhelmed, and to want to do it ‘right’. When everyone you know is buying a particular pram, or choosing a certain obstetrician, or implementing a strict feeding and sleeping schedule for their baby, it is tempting to want to follow suit. To join the masses. To feel like you fit in.
Well, fuck that shit.
You want to know what’s the best thing to do, Mama? Whatever feels right to YOU. Don’t worry if it feels like the rest of the world is breastfeeding and you’re using bottles. Or that everyone is raving about co-sleeping and you really prefer your new babe to sleep in their own room. Or that you’d really like to have a homebirth, or an elective caesarean, but your best friend’s mum’s cousin’s aunty’s daughter thinks that’s selfish.
Fuck that shit.
We all have moments where we are susceptible to the judgement of others, but do yourself a favour and notice it when it happens. Be aware of it. And take a deep breath, leave the judgement, sideways looks, and misconceived ‘advice’ behind and continue striving out on your own path. Stop apologising or feeling guilty for your choices. Tap back into that wild spirit you unleashed years earlier and trust yourself. Do what feels right for you, your baby, your family.
And live happily ever after (with the right lipgloss , of course) x
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