How did you feel when you discovered you were pregnant, Rockstar Mama?
I was so excited, as it had been a long-time coming (well, over a year of trying to make it happen, which seemed like an eternity!). The moment I found out I was pregnant, everything changed. I knew that things were never going to be how they were before, ever again. I no longer thought about just myself, from that moment of seeing the two lines on my pregnancy test, I suddenly saw the world differently, felt different and immediately started thinking like a mama.
How did you share the news with your lover? How did they react?
I told him right away after taking the test at home, I couldn’t contain myself. He was over the moon but also feeling small bits of apprehension. After showing my hubby the positive test stick, we snuggled together in bed for hours and talked about what our new life now meant for us.
Is this your first pregnancy? How does that feel?
This was my first pregnancy. Initial feelings ranged from excitement to nervousness. An inner knowingness that life was never going to be the same. Starting to make decisions that no longer affected only me, but also my baby – what foods to eat, what exercise to do and what enviroments to expose myself to – as they all affected not just me but my unborn child, and wanting to do the best for our baby from the very start.
How would you describe your 1st Trimester?
Joy + Wonder + Excitement
Describe that early pregnancy feeling to me – when you are pregnant but only a few people know.
My husband and I kept the pregnancy a secret for about a 6 weeks before we told family and close friends. We both felt so happy and I loved having our own little secret, we shared a private knowingness in that time which also gave us a chance to adapt mentally to our new way of being.
How do you feel about your body as it blossoms and grows?
I loved how my body changed: my blossoming boobs, widening hips. It amazed me how my body knew what it needed to do to create and sustain a new life. I never once worried about weight gain as I knew I was eating well and exercising regularly so was healthy and strong. I felt amazing throughout my whole pregnancy really – I didn’t experience any sickness or the usual pregnancy symptoms, so I just enjoyed and marveled at the whole process. So much wonder at the amazingness of it all.
Who has been the most supportive family/friend/care provider to you on your birth journey to date?
My husband was amazing from the get-go, always looking out for me to make sure I was comfortable, healthy and well.
How would you describe your 2nd Trimester?
Amazement + Emotional + Memorable
The 2nd Trimester is often described as time when pregnant women *glow*. Was it like that for you?
People say I glowed throughout my pregnancy, which I would say is probably true as I breezed through the whole 9+ months and loved every minute of being pregnant. I had a lot of “stuff” happen in my 2nd trimester that tried me. I sprained my ankle, broke my toe, and experienced the passing of my father while also moving house. It was an intensely emotional time in my life, where my focus was on so many external things to my pregnancy, feelings that shook me to my core, which I tried to keep in balance so that I wouldn’t get stressed, as I didn’t want my emotions to affect my baby. My feelings of excitement, joy and happiness mixed with pain, anger and frustration were difficult to manage. This trimester went by in a blur. I felt energized, confident in my birthing team and my body, yet there was lingering sadness that required strength and courage to keep on top of for the sake of the baby and the rest of my family.
Please describe the moment (to date) that you felt most connected to your babe.
It was amazing in Week 19 when we got to see the baby in 4D and found out the gender. Once I knew I was having a boy, it allowed me the chance to really start imagining what was growing inside me. It felt strange that a masculine energy was within my belly, growing, and at the same time I felt so connected. Starting to feel small movements also made it all very real, especially as I still wasn’t ‘showing” so much yet.
What birth preparation, if any, are you doing?
I found my awesome doula/midwife who met with me and my husband twice to talk about what happens and what to expect during delivery. She answered questions and shared key information with both of us. I was also reading a lot about natural birth – Ina May’s books as well as Hypnobirthig practices. I felt prepared mentally and strong physically. At no point did I ever feel afraid or worried about the birthing process. I was excited and felt confident with my support team, and with the knowledge I had that I would have a positive birth experience. My biggest fear/apprehension was that I may have to have a c-section or be induced. It really sunk in that we were going to be parents soon. I felt prepared about my delivery but less prepared about the actual baby’s arrival. Some doubts and fears started to emerge about my ability to parent, and this brought me closer to my husband, who I connected with in a new way with both of us knowing we were about to start a new journey, together, soon.
How would you describe your 3rd Trimester?
Confident + Excited + Ease
How do you feel about your impending birth? What are you scared of? What are you excited about?
My biggest fear is that I will have to be induced (My OB only waits 10 days after the EDD) or that I might end up having an emergency c-section. I really want to have a natural, drug-free delivery and I am excited to experience the energy of birth. Only the slightest of apprehension exists, more about not knowing what to expect, having to wait for baby’s arrival, or having to be induced than about the delivery itself. I am so excited to meet baby soon, to see how he looks, to know he is healthy and well. I do have some apprehensions: what if I can’t breast feed or there are problems with that…what if I don’t connect…what if I suffer PND…will I feel supported enough in the early days…will I even know what to do and how to care for this little one? I know there is probably never a point when I can feel 100% ready for what is about to happen and for the changes to our lives, so I am as ready as I will ever be. I am so grateful to finally be off work and to enjoy maternity leave, to make last-minute purchases and to get organized in time.
What is the best piece of advice that you have received about preparing for birth so far?
Don’t be afraid, and be ready to expect the unexpected and to accept any and all outcomes.
How supportive are your care providers about your birth plan?
Very. I am so blessed to have an open-minded OB and my own private doula/midwife who are supportive of my wishes to go natural and drug free if possible.
Describe your ideal birth experience – the location, the support team, the labour, the birth, the timing. Let’s put it out to the Universe!
My ideal experience would be that I can birth at home for as long as possible with my husband and midwife supporting me. I will have soft music playing, essential oils diffusing, warm lighting. I will be able to freely move about how my body desires me to. I will not feel pain, but instead will feel powerful energy. I will deliver with ease, not have any tears or stitches, and will deliver a beautiful healthy baby without any complications.
BIRTH – YOU DID IT!
How would you describe your birth experience?
Blissful + Perfect + Unforgettable
What did you like best about your experience?
It all just happened the way I expected and wanted. There was such ease and flow. I was in the zone and never at any point felt scared or apprehensive. I trusted my body, the process and my team. It was the most perfect birth, just how I imagined it would be. I loved having freedom to deliver the way I wanted even within the hospital environment. I am so relieved I could squat for the pushing and have hours of skin-on-skin time post-delivery.
What did you like least (if anything) about your experience?
30 minutes of monitoring lying flat on my back upon arrival at the delivery ward and being told not to push while we waited for the OB to arrive when I was 10 cm dilated!
What surprised you the most about your birth?
The intensity of the surges and the sounds that I made. I am unable to make those same noises now! I felt so animalistic and at one with the whole universe as I brought a new life into the world.
Please describe the feeling when you first held your new babe.
I couldn’t believe it. I felt such relief that he was healthy. I couldn’t believe he was finally in my arms and on my chest, I was amazed and elated and probably the happiest I have ever felt in my entire life. My son had arrived into the world and was now with us at last!
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