I want to share my natural, unmedicated, twin birth story to encourage every woman in here and show just how incredible our bodies are, even when your pregnancy is considered “high risk”. It’s a long one!
My pregnancy was with mono-di twins which means they shared a placenta and are more prone to developmental issues in the womb. With my first pregnancy I was able to see my midwife and loved how natural and caring she was. But midwives don’t see patients with twins because we are considered high-risk and more likely to end up in a c-section. I was super bummed to not have her again. We saw a specialist every other week from the beginning and an OB every week in between.
Our girls had been completely healthy the entire time and only measured 2oz a part in weight the whole pregnancy which is very rare with these types of twins. We had so many people covering us in prayer for these babies.
My husband and I were very traumatized after our first natural birthing experience because we were not prepared and had no idea what we were doing. I cried out in agony the entire time and his heart broke as he watched me suffer and felt absolutely helpless. I had a water birth and pushed him out in two extremely loud yells that I didn’t even know I had in me. I exhausted my body and could barely even be excited when my baby was laid on my chest. I was just relieved that the pain was over. I ended up with dropping blood pressure and a tear and it was scary for my husband when all these nurses suddenly crowded around me and put me on oxygen. I am getting choked up just thinking about how painful it was for us both.
We got pregnant again when my son was a year old and I knew I needed to do something differently. I joined natural birthing groups and read a lot on how to have a good birth experience. As I shared my birth story with a broken heart many women mentioned Hypnobirthing. We looked into it and decided to take the class. It really showed us how to keep me relaxed and how he can really partner with me in it to help. You see videos of women in labor that are almost in a zombie like state and think no way could that be me.
Every time I spoke about my upcoming birth with my OB he kept saying how beneficial an epidural would be in case of an emergency breech extraction of baby B or c-section. But my heart and soul just couldn’t give in. I left his office crying after going over my birth plan because all these things I wanted for my babies seemed out of reach in our situation.
On May 31st (at 37w1d) I was induced at 8am because mono-di twins are typically needing to be birthed between weeks 36-38 unless they come on their own before that. I was truly hoping to not need pitocin but they started me at a low dose and kept it coming at a very slow pace which I appreciated. I was GBS positive and on antibiotics from the start.
Both my babies were head down so we could still aim for a vaginal delivery. My early labor was slow, and I wanted to stay active to keep things moving since last time I stayed in the bed the entire time just suffering not knowing any better. My OB wanted me on constant monitoring but I requested “nurses who are more used to natural or experienced with Hypnobirthing techniques and she fought for me to have my birth plan respected and followed though my OB was cautious of the “what ifs”. So they let me do 45 minutes off monitoring and 15 minutes on of every hour.
A few hours into labor my midwife that I had with my son came walking in and said she would be helping at the hospital that day and would be there to help deliver our babies. I was so surprised and so relieved! She said “we are going to make this as natural as possible.” She knows my heart. She was with us throughout the day and helped make decisions with my OB.
I had to get a foley bulb put in me to get me to a 4cm. Once I started feeling stronger contractions at a 5 and 6cm I found a relaxing position in a chair and breathed through each one with my husband constantly rubbing my arm and encouraging me through them. They were getting very intense so they checked me and I was only at a 6. Very discouraged because I knew it would only get harder. They decided to break my water. They were very strong and I was sure I was at least an 8 but they checked me again and I was only a 7. Once my contractions started coming after that they were very intense but I kept trying to stay relaxed and my husband was always rubbing my back or arm and saying “you’re doing great, you can do this.” It was so wonderful.
Shortly after that they were almost unbearable and I said out loud “I don’t want to do this anymore” “I want to be done” and boy did I mean it. The only thoughts in my head were “I should’ve gotten an epidural. I should’ve gotten a c-section.” And then I remembered what we learned in Hypnobirthing, that if you start feeling like you want to give up – babies are almost here. My husband said it was nearly 5 contractions later and I suddenly was saying “loooooots of pressure down there! Lots of pressure down there!” My OB checked me and I was a 10 and ready to be moved to the Operating Room to deliver. (In case any emergency were to arise.) all I could say was THANK GOD. My midwife put her arm around me and helped me walk down the hall to the OR. I couldn’t believe I was breathing through the urges to push. I got up on the operating table and they all got prepped as I breathed through another. It all happened very quickly.
Once they said I could push with the next contraction I gave two until Baby A’s head was crowning. I wanted to push as hard as I could once that ring of fire came but that’s exactly what I did wrong when birthing my son and tore. My husband knew that if I kept going I would tear again. So this time once they saw her head they said stop pushing and just take a breath. Oh my goodness I never knew I could but I had to breathe and really think about what my body was doing and it worked. My husband couldn’t believe I did it as he saw her head halfway out. The next contraction I pushed out her head and her body and it was surreal. I felt instant relief even though I had one more baby to go. My husband kept saying she is so beautiful and perfect and that I was doing an amazing job. He couldn’t stop smiling under that mask.
Next thing I heard was my midwife ask my OB if she should break baby B’s water and she did. Then she went up and grabbed her head which I didn’t even notice and my OB told me to give a really good push. I gave two and she was out just 2 minutes after her sister. It was incredible and no intervention was needed. My husband was so proud of me and my OB later told me I am a super woman. He was in awe of what he just noticed all without medication. My midwife told me I Hypnobirthed like a champ and I was so proud of myself. I actually had the energy afterwards this time to enjoy the moment and I got down into a wheel chair, they handed me my babies and pushed me down to our hospital room to enjoy them.
Born at 10:54pm and 10:56pm. They weighed 6.0 and 6.2 lbs. I had no tears, no hemorrhoids. My husband couldn’t stop saying how amazing of a job I did. He said I looked just like those women giving birth in the Hypnobirthing videos. It was a special experience for us both and really helped me heal from my first birth. My husband said would recommend that study to anyone after watching me do that.
Thanks for reading. You can do anything you set your mind to! Picture of my sweet Isla Ray and Emery Anne at 9 days old.